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This child's parents have got @1 trained to ';
keep @2 eye on them for things @3 might be ';
doing that might get @1 into trouble. ';
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This child has learned to look for any signs of ';
his parent's disapproval. The parents are sure ';
to show their disapproval if the behavior be- ';
comes even slightly unacceptable. The level of ';
disapproval varies with the level of unaccept- ';
ability of the behavior. They really know @1 . ';
Punishment 1';
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This child's parents are focused on making sure ';
that @3 knows and understands the reason why ';
@3 is being punished. ';
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They make sure that @3 realizes the punishment ';
@3 is receiving is a direct consequence of what ';
@3 did. They look at each case of unacceptable ';
behavior and then think of the consequence most ';
likely to get the point across. They explain ';
clearly how the behavior relates. ';
Punishment 2';
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This child's parents believe that a punishment ';
must be unpleasant to be effective. ';
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They realize that giving up something @3 likes ';
or giving up getting something that @3 wants is ';
unpleasant. They also realize this form of ';
punishment works best if @3 realizes beforehand ';
what @3 will lose if @3 does something unac- ';
ceptable. They point out that since @3 knew ';
what would happen, @3 chose it, in a sense. ';
Punishment 3';
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This child's parents are always looking for ways';
that @3 is unable to manage @2 own world. ';
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When @2 behavior shows that @3 cannot handle ';
something, @3 then loses the freedom to do it ';
without controls. Likewise, if @2 behavior is ';
such that they doubt @2 ability, this doubt may ';
delay a new opportunity for @1 . The parents ';
always make it clear what behavior will cause ';
them to have these doubts. ';
Punishment 4';
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This child's parents believe that when they give';
a responsibility, the child is expected to ';
handle it. ';
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For them, responsibility is pleasant and failure';
is reason to rebuild trust. They feel that ';
trust is best regained by demonstrating that ';
@3 can handle unpleasant tasks before @3 can ';
be trusted with more pleasant responsibilities. ';
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Punishment 5';
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This child's parents feel that the best way to ';
show that certain behavior is unacceptable is ';
to limit @2 freedom. They feel freedom is a ';
privilege that is lost by irresponsibility. ';
They take unacceptable behavior as a reason to ';
remove the privileges that @3 enjoys. The ';
greater the transgression, the more freedom ';
is surrendered. They always make sure that @3 ';
knows @2 freedom is contingent on being able ';
to use it responsibly. ';
Punishment 6';
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This child's parents take unacceptable behavior ';
as a lack of @2 understanding of the importance ';
of behavior of the right type. ';
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They feel @3 should have the opportunity to ';
learn it's importance by engaging in the right ';
sort of behavior under supervision. This often ';
results in the repetition of tedious tasks until';
@3 understands. ';
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Punishment 7';
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This child's parents comment on every negative ';
or unacceptable thing that @3 does. ';
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Their comments are focused on what went wrong, ';
at the time. They focus on how the behavior ';
went wrong and the part @3 played. They want ';
@1 to realize how @2 behavior impacted on ';
others and to awaken a sense of shame and social';
responsibility for @2 actions, no matter how ';
minor. They feel this shame is good. ';
Punishment 8';
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This child's parents focus on punishing all be- ';
havior that demonstrates that the child did not ';
do what @3 was told or was disobedient to those ';
in authority. ';
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They make use of a wide variety of punishments ';
and allow teachers or friends to punish @1 if ';
and when @3 fails to do as @3 was told. ';
The punishment can often be greater for the act ';
of disobedience than the behavior merits. ';
Punishment 9';
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This child's parents tie social freedom to the ';
behavior at home. ';
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The worse the behavior shown at home, the less ';
welcome @3 is and the fewer contacts @3 is ';
permitted with others. When @2 behavior is un- ';
acceptable, @3 is isolated from the family and ';
others until @2 behavior is again under control ';
and can be counted on to remain acceptable. ';
Belonging is contingent on behaving civilized. ';
Last One ';
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